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Lesson 4 – Silly Love Songs

by StoneBridge on February 19th, 2015

“Silly Love Songs” 

“I Want To Know What Love Is (Part 1)”
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
(February 22-28, 2015)

“Biblical love is more than a feeling. Its most basic use in Scripture involves attitudes and actions. And, many times, biblical love must be expressed in spite of feelings. The greatest demonstration of this kind of love is seen in Christ’s agony in the garden of Gethsemane when facing the reality of the cross… in spite of his anguish of soul and desire to turn from the cross, he went on to the cross! And why did he do it? Because he loved us! You see, biblical love, Christ-like love, acts and does the will of God regardless of feelings.” – Gene Getz, The Measure of a Church, p. 32-33.

What is the essence of love? “Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that” (Ephesians 5:2, The Message).

Answer and discuss the following with your group

  1. Come up with a “top 5 list” of what love is, as described by our culture today.

(The study this week and next week lead us to consider the description of love written by Paul in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Read that passage before continuing the study.)

Read the following excerpt out loud or watch message segment #1 

An excerpt from Pastor Mark’s message, “I Want to Know What Love Is (Part 1)”

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“We marvel at patient people. Sometimes we even wonder how they can be so patient. A mom who is cradling her little bundle of joy even after that little one has been screaming bloody murder for an hour…how does she do it?

There is a person at the airport whose flight has been canceled. There is one flight out left and He is sitting there patiently reading the paper. There are others who are up at the ticket counter making demands and veins are sticking out of their necks…

And you think – normal people are not patient people. Are they born that way? Did they choke down some pills? Drink something. How do they do it?

Patient people have figured mastered a skill that the rest of humanity is still lacking in…they have mastered the skill of self-restraint. …”

Refer to 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 and answer/discuss the following questions

  1. The syndicated comic strip, “Love is…” has been published in various forms for nearly 50 years. Two examples of the comics are, “Love is…never having to say you’re sorry” and “Love is…cooking him a dessert when you are on a diet.” How (if at all) do these reflect the love described by Paul in 1 Corinthians 13?
  1. Love is patient, love is kind. Recall a time when you felt loved by someone because of his or her patience or kindness with you when you were being difficult. Share this with the group or a friend. What difference did this make in your life?
  1. Think of a time in the recent days or weeks when you were not patient or kind. How could you have found the love to be patient or kind in that situation? How did your feelings factor in how you acted?

Read the following excerpt out loud or watch message segment #2 

An excerpt from Pastor Mark’s message, “I Want to Know What Love Is (Part 1)”

Watch Online

“Love does not boast and love is not proud.” Here is what Paul is saying and you know this – any amount of arrogance will undermine love. People can’t stand arrogance.

The Bible says that we need to have a sober judgment about ourselves. This means you need to get a grip on reality. The sun does not rise and fall on just you. You are not the smartest and the greatest. You are also not the worst – people who have a sober judgment and are honest rarely will fall into arrogance.”

Refer to the following scriptures and answer/discuss the following questions

What is not love? The next part of 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 lists actions and attitudes that are out of bounds for the believer following the example of Jesus: love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered.

  1. What might someone do to you that makes you feel unloved even though that person says that he or she loves you?
  1. How does knowing what love is NOT help you to be loving toward others?
  1. Which is more harmful in your opinion: being unloving by doing these things that “love is not”, or not doing the things that “love is”?

Reflection and Wrap-up 

  1. As you think about the big picture of loving others like Christ loves you, what obstacles do you face to do this?
  1. Describe how you need to grow in these characteristics of love. How will you manage your feelings when you don’t feel like being loving?

Pray Together as a Group

 Additional Study

If you have time during your Small Group or you want to study more about love, read and consider the following passages:

  • 1 John 3:18
  • Ephesians 4:16
  • Philippians 2:2
  • John 13:35

For the printable PDF of this lesson, click the following link.

Silly Love Song #4


One Comment
  1. Shelly Black permalink

    Sunday night was great- the message and the music! I “Loved” the band’s version of I Want to Know What Love Is. It was just as good, or even better, than Foreigner’s version. Thank you for all you do!

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